I don’t know who sent the memo to mothers of the world that said that when you send them to college, out the door to the military, or watch them begin a life on their own that our job is over. Are you kidding me? We are just getting started at this point!
Surprised? Don’t be. I am convinced that some of our most important days are ahead of us when most of the world thinks we are going to get our first break in 18 years.
I will admit that I think this is a challenging time for mothers because most moms haven’t talked about it, understand how to do it, and recognize the vulnerability of the stage their adult kids are in. I also think we need to have a national discourse on how to adapt to the unfolding changes that are taking place in our adult chidlren’s lives.
The brain is still developing until 24-25 for females and 25-27 for males. During this time, they will do things that are not logical, that are impulsive, and may defy the way you raised them. What is important for mothers to remember is to not write them off during this time. You need to remain steadfast in your love, hopeful in your faith, and consistent in the way you communicate with them. You don’t need to preach to them because they lived with you for 18 plus years and they know exactly how you think and feel on just about every topic you can imagine.
So grab a glass of tea, sit back in your chair, say a prayer, and hold on. Part two of the journey is just beginning and it will be exciting, adventuresome, and challenging. Put your faith in your God, not your kids, and you will not only survive but you will experience a new level of peace you didn’t know existed.
